I'm 31 years old and consider myself very level-headed, but I've fallen 
hopelessly in love with my boss.  He's married with two children but I 
just can't help loving him. I hate myself for feeling like this and I know 
this whole situation isn't doing myself any good, but how can I switch my 
feelings off? I really feel like "snaring" him. We flirt harmlessly and 
have a great working relationship, so what can I do?
Flirting harmlessly and fantasising or having sexy and loving thoughts are 
one thing. Acting on them is a completely different matter..  Trying to 
"snare" your boss is something else again. Why do you think he would be 
snared?  Has he been seriously coming on to you?  Or is he, as you put it, 
just flirting harmlessly - which may just suit him fine.  If the love is 
mutual, you would probably know it already.  You have to tell fantasy from 
real love. You seem to have jumped from one to the other without having 
had any real  experience with your boss.  You'll need this to to be really 
in love.  You say you have a good working relationship with your boss
and from what you say, it seems that deep down, you do know that he is 
only flirting and that snaring him is unlikely.  Try to enjoy this 
flirting with out getting yourself into hot water.